3 Tips for Starting Relationship Therapy

Welcome! I’m so glad you’re here for my first blog post! Whether you’re exploring this space because you’re considering relationship therapy or simply curious about how it might help, I hope you find the information here both supportive and insightful.

In my Chicago-based solo private practice, I work with couples and individuals who seek to strengthen their relationships. Relationships come in all forms—traditional, non-traditional, romantic, familial—and I’m committed to affirming and supporting love in all its variations. Starting therapy can feel daunting, especially when it involves something as personal as your relationships. Many people I work with share common concerns, like feeling unsure about what to expect, worrying about being vulnerable, or wondering if therapy can really help.

If you’re thinking about starting relationship therapy, here are three tips to help you prepare:

1. Reflect on your goals and needs

Before beginning therapy, it’s helpful to think about what you’re willing to work on to improve your relationship. This could be communication, trust, intimacy, or any other area where you feel growth is needed. At the same time, consider what you need from your loved one to feel that the relationship works for you. This could be anything from more emotional support to fairer division of responsibilities. Being clear about your own goals and needs will help create a more focused and productive therapeutic experience.

2. Prepare to share the space

Relationship therapy is a shared space where the focus might shift between you and your partner or family members. There may be times when the therapist is concentrating on the other person’s experiences, and it’s important to prepare yourself to be a compassionate listener during those moments. This isn’t always easy, but it’s a crucial part of the process that can lead to deeper understanding and connection within your relationship.

3. Embrace Vulnerability

Therapy is a vulnerable space, and it can feel intimidating to have someone witness the more difficult aspects of your relationship. It’s perfectly normal to feel scared or apprehensive about this. Building a connection with your therapist is key—trusting them and feeling safe in their presence will help you open up and engage fully in the therapeutic process. Remember, therapy takes time, and it’s okay to move at a pace that feels comfortable for you.

Starting relationship therapy is a brave step toward nurturing and healing your relationship. Whether you’re dealing with ongoing conflicts, trying to rebuild after a breach of trust, or simply looking to strengthen your bond, therapy can be a powerful tool for growth and connection.

If you feel like you need support, I’m here to help. You can learn more about my services and approach on my website. Thank you for considering me as a part of your journey toward healthier relationships.

Take care,

Meg